Dating someone in alcoholics anonymous
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. I have been told that it only takes two people to hold a meeting. He kind of fluffed it off, as he is a family friend until I earnestly told him, "John, you don't understand, I'm drinking a LOT of wine"!Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Someone told me once that a drunk of a stockbroker and a washed up alcoholic doctor were the first two to hold a meeting. and it is for that reason that I enjoy talking to people who have recovered, or are trying to. Robert When one is an alcoholic they do not get the concept of a social drink.......does not compute. He kind of snapped his head around and asked, "Just how much wine we talking about here"?Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
I ask for help every morning and I say thanks for the day every night. I've been to them meetings......they do not follow the strict AA teachings either.
Please note...........these steps are only **suggested. She said that an addict will have one, and not stop at one.. the only thing that stoped her was the absence of alcahol, funds for it, or ability to stay awake. Another friend I met on this site can;t be around it at all.. Some people call it a psychological problem, some call it a disease.. When the drink comes before all else in my life, I call that insane. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. I simply believe that something bigger than me can help when I need help. This does not mean my life is a easy one either, it simply means I am able to cope with life on life's terms.
From my best understanding thus far, no one really knows for sure what it is, or why it happens, or how to cure it. I did turn my life over to what I now call my Higher Power. We are not allowed to chat on these threads, so I will not direct this post to anyone. I have my life back, I do not feel sick anymore and I'm very happy.
Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. I thought it might be relevant to have somewhre to discuss our commone problems within the program, or even to share some of our uplifting stories. They also told me that they went looking for other drunks to hang out with so they wouldn't drink themselves! I don't know, I just heard that once, and thought I'd share it with you. I am hoping that in time, I will truely understand it... The same can be said of a social drinker......have no idea of what an alcoholic feels like. I told him, "about a magnum a day and make sure I got more in case I run out".
Anyone got something to discuss or share in here please feel free. The last one got shut down, so we do not wish to see that happen again. I am an AA member myself, and will break my anonimity as it is my own right to do so. I'm always interested in hearing from recovering or recovered folk. It is the one mind set, as I have told them all, that i can not get myself into. I know how it works, and i know all the technical details etc. and then I will be able to say "Yes I know what you mean" when someone says they can't have that one drink, even if they wanted to. That is the very reason we all need to be to-gether in the rooms of AA and wage war against this thing that would control our very lives. He quickly agreed I was indeed in trouble and promptly sent me to see a phychiatrist the very next day. The next morning after trying unsuccessfully to not drink, I phoned AA. You just never know how many folks you may just end up helping by being open and honest about what you have been through..is what I like best about this place....